Posted: Mon Oct 20, 2008 7:56 am Post subject: Lieing!
My parents blatently lied to me when I was a child, but expected me to tell the truth! I caught them out good time on a number of occasions.
When I met and married hubby I had very strong views on this and still do, to that end we have never lied to the girls. If I have found myself to be in the wrong I have admitted it and said so.
K is so honest its funny, so much so, she can't keep a thing to herself including the first time she slept with someone we still laugh about it now!
T on the other hand lies for England, is nearly always caught out, but still does it!
Saturday she had arranged to meet girlfriends in Swindon (S & E), on the way up ( as we where taking her cos we needed to do a bit of shoping) she recieved a text from E stating their plans which she passed on to us! We arrived and of she trotted, we ambled along looking in a few windows heading for breakfast at BHS when who should walk round the corner arm in arm with a boy but T Hubby didn't even see her which was funny, but I stopped as she had walked right past and her face was an absolute picture!
I called her back and very quietly told her how disappointed I was in her, for lieing so blatently, I apologised to this lad and said it was nothing to do with him but the issue was T.
We parted, I was gob smacked, I really believed we had sorted this out with T and I sat in BHS with tears streaming down my face (if you where there I am sorry).
I have spent months, years trying to get this sorted and explained to her about how trust is built through honesty, she wanted us to trust her more, so I told her she needed to be more honest, so we could.
It turns out she thought we would go balistic at the boyfriend, she even spoke to her counsellor about it and even though advised to tell us chose not to.
Anyway they both pitch up at BHS and we talk, I admired this lad for having the guts to come with her and immediately he went up in my estimation, it turns out he has ADHD, they seem to understand one another.
To cut an even longer story short. she had decided in her own head we would not approve of the new BF, especially with the college and work issues we are going through at the mo too. But hubby and I don't do this shouting stuff, never have, we sit down calmly and talk. Apparently BF was well impressed. You can't help who you like or fall in love with.
Anyway we parted OK and when she came back in the evening we had another talk about it, normally she would speak to K about things like this and she would tell me if T was worried about it, but she hadn't even done that.
Am I that scary, well probably yes, I/We are very strict, but not unreasonable and we don't rant and we are prepared to listen, because as I found out as a child my parents weren't always right! _________________ "If we reduce the amount of stuff we allow to accumulate in our lives, we won't have to organise it"
Elaine St James from her book 'Simplicity'
Libby, it sounds to me like you've dealt with this in your usual brilliant fashion - I wish my Mum had been more like you and less shouty! _________________ When I married Mr. Right, I didn't realise his first name was Always ...
I'm not sure I like being so good, its exhausting!! Maybe I'll resign!!! _________________ "If we reduce the amount of stuff we allow to accumulate in our lives, we won't have to organise it"
Elaine St James from her book 'Simplicity'
Full marks to you for talking ... so many folk don't and so much is missed because of it! _________________ "One to rot and one to grow, one for the pigeon, and one for the crow!"
Old English Planting Rhyme
Not really, I was so determined not to be like Mum & Dad with double standards. It was hard when they where little not to tell a little'porky' every now and then, just to get the girls to do something but we held out and here we are!!! _________________ "If we reduce the amount of stuff we allow to accumulate in our lives, we won't have to organise it"
Elaine St James from her book 'Simplicity'
So you where a naughty girl then??? Any better now Becki?? how do you cope with your own children?
_________________ "If we reduce the amount of stuff we allow to accumulate in our lives, we won't have to organise it"
Elaine St James from her book 'Simplicity'
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we still laugh about it now!
Hubby didn't even see her which was funny, but I stopped as she had walked right past and her face was an absolute picture!
