a small summary of why i dissapeared

chickens1968 · a small summary of why i dissapeared

my step daughter accused me of certain things even i thought were impossible, my life has been devasted we are back in the concrete jungle in a rough council estate, i have had a break down and not coping very well i have been put on some really nasty drugs. i thought for the long term members you ought to know. I didnt want to post this and only one member knows the whole story, we have lost our land and contry home, animals etc. and ended up in the sort of council estate where you wouldnt dare say hello to your neighbours.
I am innocent of the allegations against me and will keep on fighting to prove this. my children are my only concern as those of you that knew me will know what my land and my girls riding lessons meant to me!
I still keep an eye on the forum but feel like i have nothing to add as I feel very alone now,
I hope you all understand without predjudice what I am going through and I hope to be back on day with pigs, chooks landrovers and tractors

Jerry

Bovey Belle

I am sorry to hear this Jerry. There are times when life throws absolute cr*p at you and you just can't dodge it. All you can do is to try and be yourself, and hold your head up high, and eventually things might work out right. I can imagien it is absolutely HELL living where you are at the moment, but can I make a suggestion. I don't know what you are doing for work, but for several years I lived in tied accommodation, when I worked with horses. This didn't give me a wage at the time (just the bungalow) and I also had to have a part time typing job to bring home the bacon, but I wonder if you could try and find something similar. There are often jobs going for wife as housekeeper or nanny or cook or carer to old biddy, husband handyman or gardener, in The Lady or Horse and Hound, or doubtless on internet sites these days. I wonder if that is an avenue worth exploring to get you back into the countryside? Meanwhile (((HUGS))) from me, who only knows you in passing but sends good wishes anyway . . . Jennie

Lizzie

I don't know what to say Jerrie, apart from to echo what BB said above... hang in there and I hope things start coming right for you very soon.

xx

Kathy

Oh Chickens, I'm so sorry, I can't really imagine what its been like for you. Please do keep popping in, even just to say hello and have some virtual hugs.

I'm sending lots of hugs, positive thoughts and good wishes for your future.

nanny-now and forever

chickens

please accept my sincere good wishes and hopes for the future

i hope it gets brighter soon

hugs
nanny

Cabbagepatch

A friend of ours is in a very similar circumstance, his wife accusing him of all sorts of nasties. Bless him, he is the most lovely person you could hope to meet. All I can say is you know whether you can hold your head up high or not. I imagine you can so, fight the depression and get out there.

Don't isolate yourself, the very least you can do is come into the shed and have a natter Smile

It really does help Very Happy

TheGirlsMum

Thoughts are with you.

chickens1968

Thanks all for your good wishes, its very hard on us all my wife, kids, friends etc are all affected by this, but we are coping and one day will get back what we had, the boxing gloves are on and we are fighting hard, I get a bit low sometimes hence the original post. It is not really something I wished to discuss but had to get it off my chest!

Becki

I'm sorry you've had such a hard time. Take Care x

lloyd

Just read this, Jerry. How awful. At least now you've got it off your chest and told us, you will feel more strongly that you are amongst friends here. Get stuck in with us mate and we can then all draw a bit of strength from each other! Very Happy

Aqui

I just saw this too. It sounds awful Jerry. I do hope things improve soon.

chickens1968

Thanks, its all pretty horrible but amazing how it pulls the good parts of your family together, and certainly found out who my true friends are, the problem with these types of things its one persons word against another and from joining a support forum I have found that generally the accused is found guilty due to personal feelings of the jury, but i am a nice guy have several other lovely children so hopefully they will realise this is the latest scam/get rich quick scheme that seems to be going round senior schools at the moment.

mogs

OMG how awful for you and your family.
i have only just picked up on this post. sorry.
you must be going thru hell !!!

my thoughts and best wishes are with you friend, although i dont think we have ever comunicated on here.

i cannot imagine what you are going thru personally, but the thought of me losing my animals and my way of life, the way you have, fills me with horror, i dont know how i would get thru that, let alone the other stuff you have to deal with.

all i can say is, take one day at a time.

my thoughts are with you.

chickens1968

Trial in four weeks now. I am petrified I have joined a few support forums and they estimate 95% of falsley accused end up inside, not looking good odds huh? 10 -15 years without my lovely family and pets

chickens1968

ps we have started a website/ blog and forum to help others in this life changing devasting situation
http://fifaa-uk.webs.com/

Becki

I'm at a loss for something to say. Just know that I will be thinking of you.

Kathy

Dear god Chickens, I don't know what to say either. I'll send all the positive good thoughts I can to you and your family.

TheGirlsMum

As the others don't know what to say put positive thoughts your way.

nanny-now and forever

chickens, i shall be thinking of you

i don't really know what else i can say other than good luck but that sounds so trite........

lloyd

You must believe in yourself and the concept of truth.

No matter what, focus on the fact that this is all lies, and that the truth will out mate.

Worst case scenario, even if a false conviction was arrived at it will often be overturned on appeal.