Cabbagepatch
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MannersIs it just me getting old or are good manners becoming scarce?
Why do people barge in through shop doorways before allowing me to exit first?
Why don't people acknowledge me when I kindly pull over in my car to let them pass?
Why do people avert their gaze as we pass each other when out walking instead of returning a "good morning"?
When I hold a door open for a mother with a pushchair, why doesn't she look at me and say "thank you"?
And finally. A sexist one.
Why don't men hold doors open for women any more? Yes, I know we wanted equality but surely they must have some chivalrous (sp) blood left in their veins?
And now I can hear Nanny responding with "CP my dear, you have joined the ranks of invisible and elderly women populating our land" 
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Jojo
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All of the above get me going,and yes I am one of the ranks of invisible and elderly woman 
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Bovey Belle
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Me too, but I think it is the general trend. I have been known to make pointed remarks . . . However, down here people still talk to other people - even complete strangers (my kids are always telling me off for doing that!) When I was out riding today, an approaching horse box turned off his lights AND his engine to let me ride past (he has racehorses, and is local). People round here are, in the main, great folk. It's the townees who don't have time for other people. The loss of community and the loss of proper parenting is partly to blame. Having said that, I noticed something on AOL the other day about how to be horrible to people, and it appeared to be a cool thing to do? What is the world coming to? And yes, I do think policemen look like they should still be in junior school, before you ask . . .
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Aqui
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completely agree.
I think manners are so important. J will definitely be taught good manners.
BB - but policemen are so young these days, aren't they? now i feel old!
and londoners are horrid.
the worst is when they tut (or even have a go) at you when they've bumped into you.
we need to move to the country!
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nanny-now and forever
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Re: Manners | Cabbagepatch wrote: |
And now I can hear Nanny responding with "CP my dear, you have joined the ranks of invisible and elderly women populating our land" |
correct - welcome to the world of grumpy old women
however i also think that there are less manners today than there used to be
most people up here are quite polite and cars do flash to say thanks and they stop to let you go past etc
but in the main i think people don't have good manners any more....perhaps they feel they haven't the time or prehaps hey just don't want to, who knows
and most policemen now are probably older than when i was a young police officer.....they used to take officers at 19 but now they have a tendency to tell hopefuls to go away and join the specials for a year or two in order to test their commitment to the job....nowadays however, it isn't a job for life so much as a slot in someone's porfolio
so acqui, i think you are getting older and the constables are not getting younger.... 
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Libby
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It is or I thought it was just common courtesy to hold doors for people etc etc, I even stand up on a train to let older people sit as do both my daughters but your right, its rare.
But the thing that really really gets my goat is the attitude of elderly people, they have one heck of an attitude, an expectation that these things 'should' be done without a backward glance or thank you. Then they are the first to complain people don't thank them!!!!
I have always believed 'Respect' is earned. My mother from the old school believes as a parent you should have it no matter what and she expects it from us!!
It would be nice if people really understood what respect was, in the true sense of the word, not his high five business!!
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Lizzie
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Agree agree agree with all of the above.
Woman to man: I hope you're not holding that door open for me because I'm a woman
Man to woman: No, I'm holding this door open for you because I'm a gentleman.
This little quote has been drummed into my nephews (who have excellent manners - they're a couple of the very few young men of my acquaintance who actually stand when a lady enters the room...).
I hate bad manners, almost as much as I hate litter which, if you think about it is just another form of bad manners.
It costs nothing to be polite...
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Libby
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I love that quote JC. I think I shall have to try and remember it!! (not much hope)
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Kathy
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I've always found pensioners the worst and it's not just recently either.
When I used to shop using the bus with 4 kids under 6 in tow it was awful. I would have a child strapped to my chest, a pushchair with a child holding on at each side plus a weeks shopping in carrier bags. The teenagers were the ones who tried to help, the pensioners frequently knocked the children over and elbowed me out of the way in the rush to get on the bus first. Orderly queues, no chance and I don't see much difference all these years later either. The young ones are far better mannered in my opinion but I do see differences in different areas. The people in Sheffield city centre for example were particularly mannerly, Cardiff the exact opposite so perhaps its related to other social factors?
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lottie
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| Aqui wrote: | completely agree.
I think manners are so important. J will definitely be taught good manners.
and londoners are horrid.
the worst is when they tut (or even have a go) at you when they've bumped into you.
we need to move to the country! |
I always think it is wrong to generalise don't you? Is it people who live in London? Born in London? Have 'London' accents?  
I live in a village and most people are very polite and friendly - but wherever you live you will always will get thoughtless folk.
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I agree totally though that these days poeple are mainly in such a hurry in 'life' and seem to be a lot less well mannered than years ago. I think a lot of it may be to do with population increases, lifestyles, parenting skills, and education.
But I am happy to say that on the whole I find what goes around comes around. And I still like to be courteous and polite whilst in the car and on the roads, and in shops, and out and about - when someone opens a door for me or holds a door open I always thank them with a comment like. 'Thank you kind sir - a gentleman at last - not many of those about nowadays' and you would be surprised how many smiles it raises, and how many people hold the doors open afterwards. 
Mind you they are probably saying 'Batty old woman behind me as I float past on a happy cloud'
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janowl
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| Aqui wrote: | completely agree.
I think manners are so important. J will definitely be taught good manners.
BB - but policemen are so young these days, aren't they? now i feel old!
and londoners are horrid.
the worst is when they tut (or even have a go) at you when they've bumped into you.
we need to move to the country! |
Well now. I'm a londoner and i'm NICE lol
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lottie
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There you go - not all rude
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Kathy
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Of course, you are right Lottie. it is unfair to generalise, there are well mannered and ill mannered people everywhere.
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Pilsbury
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| Aqui wrote: |
and londoners are horrid.
the worst is when they tut (or even have a go) at you when they've bumped into you.
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Im not to bad normally but i will try harder 
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Becki
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Your very nice Pilsbury
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lottie
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You can hold the door open for me any time Pilsbury
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