Cabbagepatch
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Will the worry everend???
just to bring me right back down to earth again whilst celebrating my new job yesterday,
no.1 daughter phoned from australia to say her friend has run out of funds so will have to return home. leaving no.1 daughter the other side of the world on her own for the next six weeks 
and then, no.1 son phoned to say he has just crashed his car and waiting for the police to arrive. his phone went dead and have been unable to contact him since
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Bovey Belle
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I hate to say this CP, but probably not - you will love them to bits till the end of time won't you? I think the trouble is, quashing irrational thoughts. I have to do this and "let go" or I would be in the loony bin. I just try and put all silly thoughts in a little box, and then mentally put it in the fire. With your son - it's the car that's the write-off, but he just has a broken phone or not in a good place for signal. The police will soon be with him.
With your daughter, I would probably worry too, but at least she is half way through her trip and has probably built up enough travel-savvy to not put herself into any dodgy situations. I find keeping busy helps - takes your mind off worrying and you get into bed at night too tired to worry for long. (((HUGS)))
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Kathy
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(((((HUGS))))) CP. Greenman went off to Portugal on his own when he was 17. Lost contact with him for a few days (no signal) and worried myself sick. Of course, he was perfectly fine.
Echo what BB said, keeping busy helps. 
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TheGirlsMum
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How's your son CP?Have you heard from hm now?
Don't envy you one little bit but know Ive got it all to come. Xan only say as every one else, keep busy.
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Libby
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I believe my mum still worries about me  So sorry your stuck with this for life!!
On the plus side she's your daughter, she has seen you come through (I believe) difficult time in your life and come out the other side happy! Its amazing what they pick up from just being around you watching and listening.
Your a survivor and I suspect she is a chip of the old block, she will be far from silly!!! Lets be honest if it was my daughter and I had the choice, I think I would prefer her to be alone in Australia rather than India.
You could ask her to stay in touch a little more often!
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Jojo
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You never stop worrying about your children even if they are all grown up because they are still your children and you will always want to protect them, my daughter went to japan when she was 19 and phoning her was £1 a minute then, but she returned safe and sound only to spend the next 5 years in the Caribbean but you have to let them do their own thing and put on a brave face
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Cabbagepatch
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| Libby wrote: |
On the plus side she's your daughter, she has seen you come through (I believe) difficult time in your life and come out the other side happy! Its amazing what they pick up from just being around you watching and listening.
Your a survivor and I suspect she is a chip of the old block, she will be far from silly!!! Lets be honest if it was my daughter and I had the choice, I think I would prefer her to be alone in Australia rather than India.
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Funny really because I feel that I have been far far from a good role model for them, (although friends and family tell me differently) yet she is the most determined young lady ever. As from next Monday she is on her own but going to give it a go through NZ and beyond even though she is scared.
I am so proud of her and worry at the same time. So if you don't mind Potties, positive thoughts please to Rebecca on her way to NZ with her backpack, trying to be brave.
No. 1 son came home Sunday evening looking sheepish, car a mess but no injuries so that is the main thing. Am very worried about him again, think he takes after me with bouts of depression 
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Kathy
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(((((HUGS))))CP, they are such a worry. Lots of happy travelling thoughts going to Rebecca.
Your son had a bad patch last year didn't he, if I remember rightly, what was it that got him over that one?
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Lizzie
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Oooh lots of good wishes for Rebecca as she wends her way - she'll have a fabulous time I'm sure and will come back ever more confident  Glad to hear that #1 son is in one piece after his accident too...
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lloyd
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| Kathy wrote: |
Your son had a bad patch last year didn't he, if I remember rightly, what was it that got him over that one? |
Repeated kicks up the backside and good old fashioned home rules to be observed. 
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mogs
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lol.......oh dear aren't kids a total pain at times, they are so inconsiderate.....lol....dont they know or realise we worry about them......
well yes of course they do....but they are having to lead their own lives....they have their things on their mind and are too busy to worry or wonder or somethine even think about us parents.......
and it does not get any better, sorry to say.
my lot are grown up with kids of their own.....my eldest is 37, next is 35 and the babie is 31 and my grandchildren range from 6-19....lol...but they are always a worry to me, in a good way....i thought it got better as they got older....oh how wrong was i....fofl....but i cant step in, i haqve to let them come to me now if there are any probs etc......not that there are many, but they know i am always here......just as yours do.....that's what being a mum is all about......
hope they are both ok.
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Jojo
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It's funny we are all the same arn't we? if the Kids are unhappy then so are we their problem is ours no matter how old they are 
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Cabbagepatch
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Oh yes, that is what I always say, when they are happy then so am I!
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lloyd
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| Jojo wrote: | | It's funny we are all the same arn't we? if the Kids are unhappy then so are we their problem is ours no matter how old they are |
I think that is certainly true of most "proper" mothers. not always true of fathers though, my dad is now happy as a pig in wotsit with his new wife in Ireland ( he aged 80 odd ), and doesn't care a bugger about how I'm doing now he's found happiness again.
Ironically though, I still worry about him?...........
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mogs
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my dad is now happy as a pig in wotsit with his new wife in Ireland ( he aged 80 odd ), and doesn't care a bugger about how I'm doing now he's found happiness again.
i am sure he does really, but seeing as how you are grown up, he has no responsibility for you anymore. he has done his job, you have flown the nest, poss even have a family of your own.....now it is his turn to have a life .....
good on him finding love again at his age......whooohooo...... 
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Cabbagepatch
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I received an email from no.1 daughter last night, she is into her first week travelling solo across New Zealand. It sounds as though she is having a fantastic time, meeting lots of great people and she says she has fallen in love with the country and plans to go back next year to work.
In the meantime she had a riding test yesterday to work for a few weeks as a horsetrekking leader.
I was so concerned about her having to continue her travels alone and am so thrilled now that she is enjoying herself so much.
So The Worry is now temporarily put on hold! 
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Libby
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Thats excellent news, well done CP's daughter and well done CP for holding up so well!!
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mogs
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i bet you are so proud of her......
you have done a good job bringing her up to have such confidence to be able to travel on her own in a foreign country.......well done.
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Kathy
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 Well done to CP's daughter.
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